Object relations therapy explores a deceptively simple question:
how do the relationships we internalized early in life continue to shape everything we do now?

Most of us walk around with an internal cast of characters—critical voices, abandoning figures, idealized images—that we unconsciously recreate in our adult relationships. You might find yourself repeatedly attracted to emotionally unavailable partners, sabotaging intimacy just as it deepens, or feeling fundamentally defective despite external success. These aren’t character flaws or bad choices; they’re survival strategies that once protected you but now imprison you.

My work focuses on making these unconscious patterns conscious, examining them together in a relationship designed for exactly that purpose. I work extensively with LGBTQIA+ individuals navigating the particular complexity of forming identity in hostile environments, religious trauma, and the internalized shame that comes from being told something essential about you is wrong. I also work with couples—both same-gender and different-gender—using psychoanalytic frameworks to understand why intelligent, well-meaning people get locked into destructive patterns of contempt, withdrawal, and escalating conflict.

This isn’t quick work. Change happens over months and years, not weeks. But if you’re tired of surface-level interventions and ready to understand what’s really happening beneath your struggles, this approach offers something deeper.

I see clients weekly (or more frequently for intensive work) for 50-minute individual sessions or 75-minute couples sessions. Consistency matters in this approach—the stable frame of same-time, same-place sessions creates safety for deeper exploration.

Contact me for more information.